“So after 10 years of marriage, what has surprised you most about me?”

My husband Andy and I just celebrated out 10th anniversary. We dropped off the girls with grandma to spend a couple of days, just the two of us. While we waited to be seated at a restaurant, we found a website with 101 questions to ask your spouse. Some were funny, some were lame, then Andy came up with some great questions, all on his own. Andy is really good at asking questions.

You really get to know someone when you marry them, and maybe for that reason, marriage is full of surprises. Good surprises, and sometimes bad. And we change. After 10 years, we are not the same people we were back then, our senior year in College, not even graduated yet.

“I didn’t know you would be this amazing.” Andy said, “We have gone through a lot together, and I didn’t know this is who you would become. Your passion, your writing, your fiestiness for life.”

And that is where it was hard not to cry in the middle of the restaurant, because we could have never imagined being here. Now. Only 10 years yet so much has happened that has changed us.We went from kids to adults. We went from not knowing who we were, to discovering our talents, passions, and pursuing dreams.

And I didn’t know.

I didn’t know that he would be such an amazing daddy to our girls.

I didn’t know that I could possibly love him more than on the day I said “I do.”

I didn’t know that as challenges come our way, my respect and admiration for him will continue to grow.

I didn’t know that he would teach me so much about Faith and determination to fight for a vision from God, even when I have wanted to give up.

I didn’t know that the last 10 years with him would be the best years of my life.

I knew I was a lucky girl to have him, but I didn’t know just how lucky I really was.

When I married Andy, I didn’t know the man he would become. I am in love with this man, and I thank God that he chose me, (because he was hot stuff in college…and still is). He looked at me, he chose me, and now we grow and learn and do life together.

It has not always been easy. We have hurt each other, we have fought, been angry, frustrated, annoyed. It’s marriage, and more challenges will come our way, but one thing I do know, we are in this together.