Just spending a few minutes on Facebook, Pinterest, or Instagram makes me realize I’m surrounded by super moms. I really don’t mean to, but I end up comparing myself to these moms. Where did my super cape go?
I’ve tried to do crafts with my kids, but it ends up being more stressful than enjoyable. Spilled glue, tiny little pieces of paper scattered on the floor, paint smeared on hair and face. It’s exhausting. How do these super moms craft with their kids? Adorable little creations, with perfect lighting to snap memorable pictures of smiling faces. I missed the super cape for crafting.
I don’t necessarily want to get into the baking, but if crafting is a challenge, baking is the Olympic Sport of chaos in my home! When I’m in the kitchen, I just want to “get it done.” I don’t love to cook or bake, I just like to eat. Extra helpers throw me off, “Careful with that!” “You are about to spill!” “How did the dough end up on the floor?” I do have one rule, when I am in the kitchen, everyone is out unless there is a simple task they can help with while sitting at the table. How do super moms bake with their kids and keep their smiles on? I missed the super cape for baking.
I’m also a horrible housekeeper. One of the worst I suspect. For some reason I have this self-imposed expectation that I should have my laundry caught up, my dishes done, the house picked up. The super moms seem to be doing it, but I have no idea how they take care of their homes in the midst of raising their children. I missed the super cape for housekeeping too.
I also don’t have the time nor the energy to look like I am ready for a photo shoot every day. I wash my face in the morning and pull my hair up in a braid, maybe if it happens to be a “good hair day” I let it down. Some days I put on some makeup on. I wear my jeans for several days until they really need to be washed, and t-shirts are standard. How do super moms get to look so good all the time? Their outfits are amazing (although I have wondered the practicality of some of those), they same to have good hair days all the time, and their makeup is flawless. They seem so put together. Their kids are often just as fashionable…and clean! I missed the super cape for style.
But this is what I have not missed. I have not missed reading books and opening new worlds to my kids. I have not missed dancing in the living room and spinning around until I can no longer stay up. I have not missed sharing stories with them about their family legacy, of how I grew up in Mexico, or how their dad grew up in Montana. I have not missed the tears, or the fears, or the nights when it is hard to sleep. And I have yelled, and I have spent too much time behind a screen, and I have made mistakes and broken their hearts, but I have not missed the opportunity to apologize and ask for their forgiveness. To let them know that I am broken, but I love them with strength and fierceness and will always, always love them unconditionally.
So it’s okay if I don’t get a cape to be a super mom. I just want to be the best mom I can be to my kids.
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And this is why we’re friends! I stop caring about a lot of that stuff a long time ago. And while we do try a craft once in awhile and I have let Owen dump some items in while I’m baking, I’m definitely not a Pinterest-worthy mama. And that’s OK for me…..I don’t have a problem running around outside, hitting the baseball or playing basketball or singing silly songs. He gets more out of that then gluing paper together and I’m sure your girls do too. I suspect you and I are wearing the same uniform right now too!! 🙂
Yes, jeans and a t-shirt 😉
Don’t you know we’re all lying??? We all put our faces through the carnival cutout and try to create the image of what we think others want us to be or what we wish we were really like. We’re all less than. Some are just better at faking it. Trust me. It’s all a facade. Keeping doing your thing for your girls. You’re perfect because you’re their mom!
Isn’t that what social media has created? An impossible standard and a push to pretend that we have it all together? Thanks for your comment Kerith!
Thanks for a great post. Honest, warm and perfect. When my kids got old enough I sent them to kindergarten and then school. They can do craft there.
The Lord bless you and keep you, make His face to shine upon you and give you His peace.
Yes, my kids get lots of crafting at school! And they are good artists too!
I wonder that too Ellen and my cape is in the laundry, as usual 🙂 love reading your posts. keep it up!
Great post!
I don’t have a super cape either…and I’m pretty sure I’m the worst housekeeper…but when my kids get childhood bumps, they still insist that Mom is the only one whose kisses make it better–and that’s probably as super as it gets!
Yes, and that is the super that our kids really need. 🙂