Contributing members of society

Are people with disabilities contributing members of society? Let’s be realistic, depending on their disability, they might need life-long care and someone to provide for all their needs. Depending on their intellectual disability, they will might not be scientists, doctors, or teachers. Depending on their disability, they might not have businesses that will provide employment for the many people out of jobs.

Nonetheless, how wrong would it be if we assumed this was true for all people with disabilities. There are individuals with different challenges – like autism, cerebral palsy, ADD and others – with an IQ higher than the rest of us, average people. They are doing amazing things, they are doctors, teachers, scientists, or great mathematicians.

But what about those that do require life-long care? Are they contributing members of society? Or are they a burden?

Once, I thought that having a child with Down syndrome would be a burden. I believed that being smart was one of the most important qualities to have. I found success defined by performance and maybe even a bank account. So I did not welcome my new baby with open arms and a cheerful heart.

The inevitable happened, I fell in love, madly in love with my child. In doing so, I changed, I recognized that the value of a child, of a life, of any person, is not found on what they can or cannot do.

My teacher of life

I began to look more closely at what it means to be a contributing member of society, because I saw that my daughter not only changed me, but the rest of my family, my church, my friends, and many people we met. It is hard to feel unconditional love and not be moved by it.

Us, “normal” people claim to be contributing members of society, yet, why is it that we take so much? We easily put our careers before our family, the people we claim to love the most. We spend hours in front of a computer screen, interacting with our Facebook friends instead of interacting with our children, our spouses, our neighbors. We fight each other based on our political preferences, or we ridicule each other based on religious beliefs. We compromise our integrity to get a job promotion. We gossip, and we talk about people behind their backs. We pretend. We hate. We lie, we cheat, we take advantage of the weak.

So I focus on people that might have severe intellectual or physical disabilities and accept that they do take from us, they require lots of care, support, and therapy. But they give so much more. They challenge unconditional love, the kind that has no strings attached, it is pure, strong, real. They show us that joy is possible even in the middle of the simple things of life. Some might be gifted to cheer, celebrate, and encourage. They teach us compassion, acceptance, and humility. They remind us to be thankful for the many blessing that we have. They show us, in a profound way – because of their obvious disabilities – what it means to be whole, and how broken we all are in our own way.

People with disabilities are contributing members of society. They show us what really matters in life, what it means to be human, what it means to be loved and accepted simply for being, not because of what we can or cannot do. And I am thankful, so very thankful that in my own brokenness, in the brokenness of this imperfect world, we all need each other. And we all have much to contribute.

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Comments

  1. says

    Great thoughts Ellen. I credit the shift in my life and the beginning of Mercy’s Refuge to one person. My friend Jennifer who has Down syndrome. She may not be a ‘contributing member of society’ in the traditional sense but she’s contributed significantly to my life!

    • Ellen Stumbo says

      And think how that life affected by Jennifer has traveled across the world to help Serbian orphans. Yep, I say she contributed to not just you, but a forgotten people wasting away in orphanages. Love to see how God reminds us that His power is found in our “weakness” and he uses the “weak” to accomplish great things!

  2. says

    Thanks for the prompt… I kinda just jumped off your whole post though ;-) My one daughter is quite ID and I have thought about this for a long long time… what her purpose is, what her value is, what her contribution will be to the world she inhabits…

  3. says

    As a mom of a 26 year old with Down syndrome, I say AMEN! We have watched over the years our son contribute to and enrich other’s lives in a way that is only because because of the way God created him.

  4. says

    I love this post. And, you know what? I’ve heard people say that stay-at-home-moms don’t contribute to society, or that people earning minimum wage aren’t contributing to society. Obviously, both of those sentiments are ridiculous and untrue. I think your point about those of us who so confidently claim to be contributing to society are not all that great anyway. People need to get over themselves!

    Your daughter is beautiful, and your blog has taught me so much about interacting with families that look/act a little different than my own. I’m thankful for that.

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